Tuesday, October 6, 2015

醒 来

醒  来


作者:释隆奇 虎啸星宇



从生到死有多远?

呼吸之间

从迷到悟有多远?

一念之间


从爱到恨有多远?

无常之间


从心到心有多远?

天地之间



人生 就是这样一个苏醒的过程。

这个世界 层层叠叠地向我们展开。

这一刻迷离的面目,下一刻 就会清晰;

这一刻 不能宽恕的人,下一刻就会得到原谅;

这一刻 不能接受的事实,下一刻就会变得容易理解。

是的,就这样,

我们不断消除着自我的狭隘、偏激和片面,

活到老,醒悟到老。 



人生快不快乐 看心情,

心情好不好看心态。

快乐的人不是没有痛苦,

只是 他们都修炼了一颗强大的心。

拥有强大的内心,

就不是生活左右你,而是你 驾驭生活。



如果 想把世界看得清楚,

就让你的心 保持纯净。

如果 想把世界看得开阔,

就让你的心 变得宽广。



人生一世

不要天天混日子,也不要天天熬日子,

而要天天享受日子。

心境简单了,就有心思经营生活;

生活简单了,就有时间享受人生。


活得简单 不难,

只需懂得 为真诚而活,为美好而生,为幸福而做。

多一分快乐,少一分忧伤;多一分真实,少一分虚伪;多一分悠闲,少一分忙乱。



不是每个擦肩而过的人 都会相识,

也不是每个相识的人 都会牵挂,

至少,我们在今生,在某个地方,

在一转身的时候 没有错过。

感谢上天给我们的机缘,

不要忘了 你的世界我来过。



人生每一步,都要付出代价。

这世上的芸芸众生,谁不是这样呢。

任何事情,总有答案。

与其烦恼,不如 顺其自然。

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Productivity ninja: 5 powerful tips for getting mo

Productivity ninja: 5 powerful tips for getting more stuff done

1. Know when you're at your best

And plan accordingly. To be a productivity ninja focus less on time management, and more on managing your energy.

Charlie Munger, vice-chairman of Berkshire Hathaway, used a system like this to make sure he was always growing. He identified the hours when he was at his best \ and then routinely stole one of those peak hours for learning.

Charlie Munger hit upon one strategy when he was a young lawyer. He decided that whenever his legal work was not as intellectually stimulating as he'd like, "I would sell the best hour of the day to myself." He would take otherwise billable time at the peak of his day and dedicate it to his own thinking and learning. "And only after improving my mind \ only after I'd used my best hour improving myself \ would I sell my time to my professional clients." [The Idea Hunter: How to Find the Best Ideas and Make them Happen]

Are you a morning lark? A night owl? Tired after lunch? Best after a nap? Track what works for you and plan around that.


2. Get enough sleep

No, you can't cheat yourself on sleep. Cutting corners on siesta time has a cascade of negative effects, not the least of which is making you less proactive.

Irrespective of how well you were able to get on with your day after that most recent night without sleep, it is unlikely that you felt especially upbeat and joyous about the world. Your more-negative-than-usual perspective will have resulted from a generalized low mood, which is a normal consequence of being overtired. More important that just the mood, this mind-set is often accompanied by decreases in willingness to think and act proactively, control impulses, feel positive about yourself, empathize with others, and generally use emotional intelligence.[The Secret World of Sleep: The Surprising Science of the Mind at Rest]

In fact, some people's emotions are so disturbed after a night of sleep deprivation that they could be classified as psychopaths. That might make you into a good real ninja but not a productivity ninja.

All of these things combine to change the way they score on clinical mood disorder scales, often tipping perfectly normal people over the edge into the clinically relevant zone, so that, if tested on that particular day, they could be classified as depressed or even as psychopaths. [The Secret World of Sleep: The Surprising Science of the Mind at Rest]

What's the best way to improve your sleep? Learn how astronauts sleep.


3. Distractions will make you stupid

Students whose classroom was situated near a noisy railroad line ended up academically a full year behind students with a quiet classroom. When the noise was dampened, the performance difference vanished.

To measure the impact of this noise on academic performance, two researchers noted that only one side of the school faced the tracks, so the students in classrooms on that side were particularly exposed to the noise but were otherwise similar to their fellow students. They found a striking difference between the two sides of the school. Sixth graders on the train side were a full year behind their counterparts on the quieter side. Further evidence came when the city, prompted by this study, installed noise pads. The researchers found this erased the difference: now students on both sides of the building performed at the same level.[Scarcity: Why Having Too Little Means So Much]

Distractions might mean you don't notice gorillas walking by. Seriously.

Here's how to improve focus.


4. Work somewhere that facilitates productivity

Have a spot where you're usually productive? Go there. How about a place where you always screw around and waste time? Avoid it.

Wendy Wood, a professor at USC explains how your environment activates habits \ without your conscious mind even noticing.

Habits emerge from the gradual learning of associations between an action and outcome, and the contexts that have been associated with them. Once the habit is formed, various elements from the context can serve as a cue to activate the behavior, independent of intention and absent of a particular goal... Very often, the conscious mind never gets engaged. [Habit: The 95% of Behavior Marketers Ignore]

Context matters more than you think.


5. Believe in what you do

Sounds like a corny cliche, but the research supports it. What happens when you see your work as a calling, not just a job that pays the bills? You are more thorough, engaged \ and happier.

The research of psychologists Amy Wrzesniewski and Jane Dutton shows just how much of our mind-set \ what we choose to focus on \ affects our experience of work. Wrzesniewski and Dutton followed a group of hospital cleaners, and found that some of the cleaners experienced their work as a job \ as something they did solely for the paycheck \ and described it as boring and meaningless. But another group perceived the same work as a calling \ and experienced the hours they spent at work as engaging and meaningful. This second group of hospital cleaners did things differently from the first group. They engaged in more interactions with nurses, patients, and visitors, taking it upon themselves to make everyone they came in contact with feel better. Generally, they saw their work in its broader context: They were not merely cleaning the wards and removing the trash, but were contributing to the health of patients and the smooth functioning of the hospital. [Choose the Life You Want: The Mindful Way to Happiness]

How do you do this? It's about interacting with the people who experience the benefits of your work.

Wharton professor Adam Grant did research trying to motivate employees at a university call center. When call center workers were shown letters written by grateful students who had received scholarships funded by the workers' calls, their motivation soared. What pushed their motivation even higher? Speaking with those students.

When callers interacted with one scholarship recipient in person, they were even more energized. The average caller doubled in calls per hour and minutes on the phone per week. By working harder the callers reached more alumni, resulting in 144 percent more alumni donating each week. Even more strikingly, revenue quintupled: callers averaged $412 before meeting the scholarship recipient and more than $2000 afterward. [Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success]

Never, ever underestimate the power of the right attitude.

Friday, April 18, 2014

順風時若是無知

順風時若是無知
逆流時無從瀟灑

Thursday, February 27, 2014

Heng Chee Meng anti-scam 3-point checklist

Heng Chee Meng anti-scam 3-point checklist

1. Is the deal too good to be true?
If answer is No, ends here.
If answer is Yes, go to Q2.

2. Why so good deal come to find me?
If can't answer, ends here.
If can find answer, it is likely to be Q3.

3. What does the person want from me after giving me such good deal? Am I willing to trade that?
If answer is No, ends here.
If answer is Yes, you should find by this time the answer to Q1 is NO.

Thursday, February 6, 2014

How to win friends and influence people -- Dale Ca

How to win friends and influence people -- Dale Carnegie


[HANDLING PEOPLE]

1. Don't criticise, condemn or complain.

2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.

3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.


[MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU]

4. Become genuinely interested in other people.

5. Smile.

6. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

7. Be a good listener, encourage others to talk about themselves.

8. Talk in terms of the other person's interest.

9. Make the other people feel important.


[WIN THE PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING]

10. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

11. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."

12. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

13. Begin in a friendly way.

14. Get the other person saying "yes", "yes" immediately.

15. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

16. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

17. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.

18. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.

19. Appeal to the nobler motives.

20. Dramatize your ideas.

21. Throw down a challenge (to inspire the desire to excel).


[CHANGE PEOPLE WITHOUT GIVING OFFENSE OR AROUSING RESENTMENT]

22. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

23. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.

24. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

25. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

26. Let the other person save face.

27. Praise the slightest improvement and every improvement.

28. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.

29. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.

30. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Sunday, January 5, 2014

说到心坎里的肺腑之言

初级的快乐是肉体的快乐,那是饱、暖、物、欲。

中级的快乐是精神的快乐,那是诗词歌赋、琴棋书画、游走天下。

高级的快乐是灵魂的快乐,那是付出、奉献,让他人因为你的存在而快乐!


平庸的人只有一条命,叫性命;

优秀的人有两条命,即性命和生命;

卓越的人则有三条命,性命、生命和使命。它们分别代表着生存、生活和责任!

人与人的差距,表面上看是财富的差距,实际上是福报的差距;

表面上看是人脉的差距,实际上是人品的差距;

表面上看是气质的差距,实际上是涵养的差距;

表面上看是容貌的差距,实际上是心地的差距;

表面上看是人与人都差不多,内心境界却大不相同,心态决定命运。

男人只有穷一次,才知道哪个女人最爱你。

女人只有丑一次,才知道哪个男人不会离开你。

人只有落魄一次,才知道谁最真谁最在乎你。


陪伴,不是你有钱我才追随。

珍惜,不是你漂亮我才关注。

时间留下的,不是财富,不是美丽,是真诚。

Saturday, October 19, 2013

但�你20�就懂的18件事(18 things I hope you will learn before you're 20)

但�你20�就懂的18件事
(18 things I hope you will learn before you're 20)

作者:黑幼�、黑立言
出版社:�神
出版日期:2010.5/25

如果�本�能�年�的你,少走一�冤枉路,少一�挫折,早一�享受美好�光,我�非常�心。你已�懂得自己需要什�了。

1 每天有一段��的�光
(Spend sometime alone every day to recharge yourself)

�陌生人相互注�了一��―真是可遇不可求。雨中漫步―�著�,在行人稀少的道路上漫步,不管�人看了你�怎�想,你走你的。�音�―留一�落地�就好了。�上眼睛,�著音�走。

2 相信自己是一�有�力的人
(Believe that you have potential, to do anything)

玫琳��,要是你相信自己能做到,你就能做到;要是你相信自己做不到,你就做不到。每年去一�你�未去�的地方,我�以前做不到,你��在只要管理好打工的�就可以了。

3 把家人放在手心上
(Put your family as first priority)

幸福的家庭�氛是人生的基石。�家人需要�,就握住你�心的人的手,�柔的�弄��,�是多��密的感�,那就是幸福的感�。

4 不要��微���害到珍�的友�
(Don't let minor issues hurt your friendship)

我好�慕那些很年�就玩在一起的哥��,他�真的把握到了�一�。

5 �真��
(Fall in love, seriously)

��是一�子都不�淡忘的,�你遇到一�特�的眼神,你一定知道我指的是什�。

6 常常想到自己的福�
(Count your blessings)

我�都只�想到自己的��多不好,要是你今天就列��下自己得到的恩典,你����真不少。

7 得不到也是一�福�
(The blessings of not ....)

想一想有多少企�家�有考取台大,有多少成功的人�有出�留�?老是想得到和�人一�的�西,不如想想那些得不到的,你究竟��了什�?

8 失�的祝福
(Learn from failures)

你可以失�,但不要忘��失�中�取教�,怪不得有的人後��得很成功。

9 ��定�如指掌,才知道如何突破
(First know the limits, then find ways to break through)

成功常�生在�制外,但通常都�生在懂得�用的人身上。

10 �美�人重要感
(Praise others)

�意��到�人�美你,多美妙。有人��美是�言中的�石,每�人也都有想�得肯定的渴望。

11 欣��人打��物的表情
(Enjoy others happiness)

把�美�作一份�得的�物。那件�物是那�微不足道,但你真的�了一番功夫。

12 不要批��人
(Don't criticize others)

因�批�有可能��到��的自尊,�失去�人由衷的合作。你看,要是�年�的�候就能做到�多好。

13 沈默有�是最好的回答
(Silence is sometimes the best response)

如果人生能�重�,我一定要�少批�,希望你不要到我�年�才���秘�。

14 把�力�成新�有趣的探�
(Treat pressures as adventures)

�今�����烈,�化��快,未�只�更快、更�烈,不具��些能力�怎��呢?

15 重要的事先做
(Do the important things first)

有些事情��明�,但我�每天偏偏���碎的事占�行程表。艾森豪���,急的事情很少是重要的。

16 �度��,充��忱
(Be passionate and proactive)

年�人��入社�可能以���能力最重要。《天下��》曾做��查,��大多�的老�最希望新�人�具�的是��的工作�度。

17 �通����,一路��到底
(Saying the right way can be more important than saying the right thing)

�住,�比��重要,怎��比�什�重要。

18 �身��
(Life long learning)

松下幸之助�一��踏��徒�成�十�人的公司董事�,他�自己的成功�因於�身��。看看你周�的朋友,如果��校��後就不再��了,要�快影�他�。